Law 62 – Position Yourself To Be Loving (and Loved) To Change Your Life
What most people need to learn in life is how to love people and use things instead of using people and loving things.
(Author Unknown)
Loving can cost a lot but not loving always costs more, and those who fear to love often find that want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life.
(Merle Shain)
Love / Loving – A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection. Affectionate concern for the well-being of others.
What Does The First Quote Suggest?
The first quote “hits the nail on the head” as to a social issue that has long been a concern of mine.
It deals with the unfortunate fact that we live in a society that is frequently too materialistic.
In other words, we value “things” and “possessions” we manage to accumulate, rather than the people who are in our lives.
The flip side of that is that we often use the people around us, solely so that we can accumulate more of the “things” and “possessions” that we covet so much.
To put it mildly, our priorities are often backwards.
We value the possessions and use people only to help us get more possessions.
Conversely, we tend to devalue people unless they are able to help us obtain more “things” and “possessions”.
We need to learn to LOVE people, not things.
Things are replaceable.
People are not.
What Does The Second Quote Suggest?
It suggests that loving takes a lot of work.
It takes a lot of constant, time, energy and effort.
Over time, that works out to be a large expenditure of time, energy and effort.
The quote then goes on to suggest that NOT loving costs even more.
The reason it costs us more is that having a lack of love in our lives leaves us with an emptiness.
That emptiness robs a lot of joy from our lives.
In other words, love, while it costs a lot, fills us up and brings joy into our lives.
While it may not be what you would normally expect, a lack of love winds up costing us even more, because while we may save a lot of time, energy and effort, we will have a huge emptiness in our lives where the joy is missing.
That lack of joy winds up costing so much more than the simple time, energy and effort require to love others.
Just What Is Love?
Love is a feeling and concern for others.
On the flip side, when others show feelings and concern for you, you are receiving love.
Love is something that you both give and receive.
The funny thing about love is that the more of it you give away, the more of it you will receive.
At first glance, that doesn’t make sense, but trust me, that’s the way it works.
The more you give love; the more you get love.
That’s why the law is structured as Position Yourself to be Loving.
Like so many things in life, you have to first give in order to receive.
Giving Love Makes You Vulnerable
The reason why you get more love, AFTER YOU GIVE MORE LOVE is because the acting of giving love opens up your heart.
It makes you more vulnerable.
By making yourself more vulnerable, you allow people to come to you and you allow love to come to you.
So, open yourself up and make yourself vulnerable.
You won’t be sorry.
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Until next time, may you find your path by walking it . . .
Stanley F. Bronstein
Agent of Super Change